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THE WILL SMITH THEORY.

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The Will Smith Theory; “Her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone a responsibility to make you happy when you can't do it for yourself is selfish"

We are constantly moving from one rel'ship to the next because we are always on the prowl for a high. And the illusion of being happy with next person is the high....that's why we have a culture that believes the grass is always greener on the other side..... Which is a negative.
What we have is people getting into situatioships masked as "love relationship" also known as "Fish love" or (selfish)as described by Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski when answering questions on love.      (https://youtu.be/AVjRuM7Rong)

Love without care for the other person’s lived experience is not love, it is self love. Finding someone extremely pleasurable is not love, it is self love. Finding someone beautiful is not love, it is self love.And, this is significant, because culture presents the message that fish love is love. 
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Culture presents, effectively, a version of love that is another person finding you transcendentally beautiful or the fairy tale tall,dark & Handsome and this is so… wrong.But has been promoted to be a positive. Before you move to next Dick..or Ass

This is not to say you should stay in a toxic situation,work out get your freedom.Live free live like a Hedonic.Where your own pleasure takes precedence over "Finding love,thus Happiness".
Make sure you are happy first, find the source of your happiness and then find somebody equally happy then share your happiness.

Thats how trascendal Love happens or achieved.
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